Agenda, Awareness, Assertiveness, Action and Authenticity.
AGENDA. Having an Agenda for your life and Aiming for this, is crucial if you want Passion – Passion that will get you passionate followers. Finding, having and knowing your ultimate purpose can easily give you so much Passion that you could scare people away, so learn to relax into your Passion when you find it. AIMING for the highest purpose of your life, will set the heading for everything else in your life and become a very valuable guideline. You want to be a Man with a Plan!
AWARENESS is important. You have to be totally AWARE – Well that is not quite possible but it is possible to wake up gradually to higher and higher levels of awareness. Most leaders are not even aware what is going on in their own teams. Most leaders act solely from what they THINK is going on in their team! Unfortunately they think that what they think is REAL! If you blindly go for your agenda without stopping up evaluating, feeling and contemplating about what you are doing, you could en up on the top of the mountain just to realize you climbed the wrong mountain!
There are multiple levels of awareness. The first is Inner awareness which is an absolute necessity if you want to be able to see the difference between what really is and what only is in your mind. Most people can’t see this difference! The second level of awareness is group awareness and this is where you really get in touch with what is going on in your team or your company or your family. The third level of awareness is the City Limit awareness. You can’t make a decision in your team without considering what effect this has outside your team! The fourth level of awareness is national. What is the interaction between your country and your decision? The fifth level of awareness is global. This is where the technological development is today so if you don’t possess global awareness you are far behind! awareness is one of the doorways to CREATIVITY!
ASSERTIVENESS. When I say Assertive I mean positive, appreciative, respectful and exact communication. Being assertive also includes LISETNING to what your friends and customers are saying. You want to listen to be able to communicate precisely. Otherwise you will no connect to people and give them what they really want. APPRECIATION!
ACTION speaks louder than words! Need I say more! Successful leaders execute!
AUTHENTICITY. The spoken language is only about 7% of the total communication so what about the other 93%? Well, have you ever heard of body language? Tone of voice? Gestures? Body posture? If your words communicate one thing and your body language another and your tone of voice a third… What impact do you think you are making? If ALL your communication channels were transmitting the same message, don’t you think the message would be a lot clearer? You can learn to control your channels but if you are controlling and suppressing a channel which is communicating a different message than the words channel, you just create a new channel that communicates that you are holding something back which could be interpreted as being dishonest. Do the opposite. Learn to understand your channels and your sub communication. Be totally honest, open and PRESENT! Do what you say and say what you do! Under promise and over deliver!
Mastering these five A’s will make you a more balanced person and give you at least five more A’s to master:
Authority, Attention, Attraction, Admiration, Accountability.
AUTHORITY comes from knowing your AGENDA – knowing where you are AIMING, and being totally honest and in sync with all your communication channels. The power of a title only gives you imaginary authority . We all know that this kind of authority has NO impact at all! A true Leader does not have to claim his authority. WISDOM is a big element of authority. Knowing your purpose is the key/path to unlock your inner WISDOM. True Authority is earned by being honest and by keeping your promises. Authority cannot be commanded.
ATTENTION is what you get when your communication is precise and with impact. When people feel you understand their problems and want to help you have their attention!
ATTRACTION. The world will come to you when your physical, emotional, mental, energetic and spiritual layers are in sync. When you have done your homework!
ADMIRATION. Well… As true Leaders we don’t need admiration. That’s why we get it!
ACCOUNTABILITY. As true leaders we have stop blaming! We have to get to the point where we return from “It is your fault” to “It is MY responsibility”. In other words: What can I do to help when some one fails. Was it me that did not provide correct information? How did I contribute to failure? Lead and Learn! Which Leader does earn your respect. Him who says: “It is your fault. You need to do better or find another job!” or the one who says: I’m sorry. I messed up. I’m also to blame here. I will do better next time”… STOP the blame game and take responsibility.
The Masculine qualities:
Agenda, Awareness, Assertiveness, Action and Authenticity in equilibrium with the feminine qualities:
Authority, Attention, Attraction, Admiration and Accountability will make you:
Appreciative, Attentive and Amazing!
You will become an:
Achiever, Accomplisher, Adventurer, Alchemist and the Author of your own life!
You will be a True Alfa Male! You will be the Answer to peoples questions!
All these A’s describe the Archetype of a True Leader.